I talked a little about my sobriety plan and the importance I believe it had in me finally getting sober. I had many half-hearted, moderately hearted and even whole-hearted ATTEMPTS at sobriety over the course of about 3 years. That last year from January 1st-November 9th they were whole hearted, but it wasn’t sticking. I prayed for help and God made it clear to me that I needed a plan!
Since I had so many attempts and periods of sobriety already under my belt I was able to gather a few tools in my sober toolbox along the way. In addition to reading the bible I had also read many sobriety books/memoirs, found a podcast that helped immensely (I’ll talk more about that!!) and followed several blogs. I knew on November 9, 2016 that if I truly wanted to never drink again that my life needed to radically change. Now, with that said, this suburban Mom wasn’t really living on the edge exactly so it wasn’t really “radical” for anyone else but me.
The podcast I mentioned earlier is called The Bubble Hour. I learned so so much and I still listen to it now. It is real life stories, which means it is all our stories. You will listen to it and just shake your head…”yep, that is me too”. I remembered listening to one of the hosts talk about how when she first go sober she had to radically change her routine. She even started walking into her house through a different door because her old routine included coming in and pouring a glass of wine before she even took her coat off (no judgement-been there-done that!). I went through my daily routine in my mind and decided to change things up!
- I started getting up at 5am to read God’s Word, pray, drink coffee and plan my day without distraction. I was NOT an early morning person (but now I am!).
- I let myself sleep when I was tired. I slept A LOT that first month. I was physically, spiritually and mentally EXHAUSTED, DEPLETED and EMPTY.
- I threw out EVERY wine glass I owned.
- I started making dinner in the morning or at noon (cooking was a trigger).
- I stayed home a lot and didn’t feel a bit guilty for saying “no”.
- I stopped hanging around friends who drank heavily.
- I got some accountability. I told a couple of trusted friends and family members, I had never done that before.
Like I said, nothing really “radical”, well maybe throwing away all my wine glasses, but I’m glad they are gone! That cabinet is now filled with mugs, pretty tea cups, coffee beans and a HUGE selection of delicious herbal teas!! That cabinet makes me so happy now!
I’m using the “change-up” on some other things in my life too. It’s just so easy to get in a stinky rut……poor diet, negative thinking, too much social media, etc. Time to make a few changes. We are always a work in progress, thank you God for your mercy and grace : )